It’s funny how we as human beings are great in taking care of other people, but when it comes to taking care of ourselves we have no idea where to start. It’s time to change some things!
I want to share some self-care tips with you in this blog post so you can start to practice self-care daily.
So I have a question for you: “When was the last time you asked yourself what YOU needed?”
I was asked this question 6 months ago and my mind went blank. I could not answer that question. I was always giving to others. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with giving. I love to give, but these days I like to balance it with recharging my battery from time to time. Because let’s face it … you really can’t pour from an empty cup right? I wrote this blog post to share some of my self-care tips with you so you can start to practice self-care daily
Self-care is necessary to fill that cup! It means that you look after yourself so you can avoid fatigue and illness.
A few months ago I agreed with myself that self-care had to be a non-negotiable part of my life. Which was, and still is, not easy. I have quite some limiting beliefs when it comes to taking care of me. As a kid I loved to just sit with a book and read for hours. To me it was more important (and more fun!) than cleaning my room for instance. My mother used to say to me “jij bent liever lui dan moe he!?”. Which means “you’re rather lazy than tired”.
If these kind of words are said to you enough times, you will start to believe them. You will believe that you’re lazy when you’re doing nothing (or something that is fun). You will believe that you’re lazy when you’re not working your butt off. And after a while you will start to repeat these words to yourself and they will turn into your belief.
And when you become a young adult trying to find your way in a society that rewards hard work … well, I think you get my point. Thinking that you can only get somewhere in life if you work hard, was one of my limiting beliefs.
Recognizing a belief as a limiting belief is the first step in changing the belief.
I had to tell myself many times that I am not lazy if I take a break. I am not lazy if I take a nap. I am not lazy if I decide to do nothing for a whole day because my body is just saying “nope”. It is actually being super smart to do this!
Your body will let you know what it needs! It’s up to you to listen to your body. Self-care can come in many forms. I think it is important that you do what feels good to you. If you aren’t used to taking your self-care moments, it might feel a bit uncomfortable in the beginning. Give yourself some time to get used to it. And give yourself space to grow.
Let’s get on with those self-care tips!
- Say “no” when you don’t want to do something
- Take a step back
- Read a book
- Stay at home
- Spend some time with yourself
- Take a bath
- Drink enough water
- Set boundaries
- Eat food that nourishes that beautiful body of yours
- Say nice things to yourself
- Writing in a journal
- Take a little nap
- Forgive yourself
- Make a bit (or a lot) of time for your hobby
- Turn your phone off (this one is still a bit difficult for me)
- Practice Yoga Nidra
There are of course many more self-care ideas! This is just a small selection of my favorites. Two of my favorites are definitely Yoga Nidra and journaling.
Practicing Yoga Nidra
A few months ago I discovered Yoga Nidra, which means Yogic sleep. When practicing Yoga Nidra you will get into a state where your body is completely relaxed. A voice guides you into that state of consciousness between being awake and sleeping.
For me it’s the ideal way to fall asleep at night as it quiets my inner critic (my inner critic almost always gets active when I am trying to fall asleep). Yoga Nidra also helps me with getting into a deeper sleep after the session has ended.
You can also do Yoga Nidra during the day. It’s a great way to “nap” for a bit and feel energized afterwards. I love to use the Yoga Nidra sessions by House of Deeprelax.
Start a journaling practice
You might have heard or read about journaling or maybe you even write in a journal yourself.
Journaling is a written record of our thoughts and feelings. It is really that simple! And the best thing is that writing down what is going on in your life at the moment can change your mood and even improve your health! Yes, you heard that right! How cool is that?
Although culture keeps telling us to love ourselves more, a lot of us weren’t taught how to do that. We often find it very easy to say nice things to others, but when it comes to ourselves we can easily hurt ourselves with negative self-talk.
Self-care starts with self-love! And I do realize that for some of us a list of self-care tips isn’t enough to actually start practicing self-care. In the new year I will start a group coaching program where I will teach you how to practice self-care and self-love. I will teach you how to befriend your inner critic and how to build more self-esteem. If you want to receive more information and if you want to be the first one to hear when it launches, you can sign up for my newsletter here!